Criticism is Good in Low Doses - Faithful Fathering

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Tuesday, September 24 2013

Are you the Chief Critical Officer of your home? Is that part of a dad’s job description, right beside financial provider and disciplinarian of last resort?
Be careful. Criticism is good in low doses but be sure to include encouragement.

A Workplace study by Losada & Heaphy revealed that performance was at its highest when there were 5.6 positive statements for every critical comment.
Similarly in marriage, John Gottman’s analysis found a ratio of five encouraging statements for every critical remark to be the single biggest determinant of a healthy relationship.

I challenge you to make the move to Chief Encouragement Officer of your home. Work to provide solid encouragement at every opportunity. Criticism is part of life but keep it in the right perspective. By stepping up as CEO of your home, you will be a hero in your children’s eyes.

Use the comment button to share why you think dads are so critical.

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Posted by Brenden on 09/26/2013 - 09:47 AM

I have seen similar positive to negative comment target ratios in the current youth coaching training manuals. It works but it is hard to implement and takes diligent effort to keep that ratio at 5 to 1.

Posted by Mike on 09/26/2013 - 03:42 PM

Short, sweet and very helpful - Thanks!

Posted by Roger Ford on 09/27/2013 - 09:57 PM

Rick, I think the reason we dads tend to be so critical, is due to our sincere desire for our children to be the best they can be, to honor The Lord in all they do, and hopefully avoid the mistakes that we have made.

Posted by Galen (Russell) Monroe on 09/28/2013 - 10:00 PM

My father was a very quiet but stern man. He accepted no mistakes, but when I did he was there with the biggest bear hug and word of encouragement.